Makeup, outfit & hair for funeral?

Mar 4, 2014

Meghan C.

My great grandmother passed away earlier today and so I've decided to distract myself with things. What shoes I wear to her funeral? It's going to be -8 c outside (18 f) and so I need something warm. Also, how should I do my hair? It's shoulder length with layers. And if you have any makeup ideas? Thank you in advance ( I'm 13 turning 14 in a week n a half btw)

Mar 4, 2014

Ashley D.

Just keep it simple. Wear a sweater and some sort.of pants. Maybe just pull your hair back and put on some powder and water proof mascara. Sorry for your loss

Mar 4, 2014

Mariam A.

I am really sorry foe your loss. Wear anything black

Mar 4, 2014

Sarah M.

Try to wear black or dark blue/dark colours. If you don't have any waterproof makeup, you should buy some. Try to stay modest in your clothing choices, and keep it simple. Sorry for your loss. x

Mar 4, 2014

Roz X.

I'm so very sorry. When my grandmother died, the last thing I cared about was "my look". Honestly, these threads are so disheartening.

Mar 4, 2014

Meghan C.

@rozberry j. ( not sure if this is how I respond, I'm on Mobil ) but I'm sad, she was one of my best friends. Like I said, I'm trying to distract myself and be happy. My great nanny Mary always wanted me to be happy. I'm sorry you find it disheartening, but she had cancer and so so much pain. She already had everything picked out, from what her tombstone is going to say down to the songs we're going to sing. She had submitted HERSELF to palliative care. Great nanny Mary told me she was ready. I'll apologize once again, but right now this is how I choose to cope.

Mar 4, 2014

Natalie T.

Meghan, I am so sorry for your loss <3
If you have any jewelry or clothing that your Great Nanny Mary gave you, definitely wear those! Otherwise, keep jewelry subdued and minimal.
Since its so cold, I would advise you to wear a nice boot/bootie, something that will keep you warm. Don't go with a combat, moto, or overly trendy boot, but a nice riding boot or sleek bootie would be fine.
Definitely make sure to layer! Do you have a nicer, more formal black coat you can wear to the funeral? A pea coat, dark colored wool trench, or any "dressier" coats that can keep you warm is a great thing to wear at the graveside service. You can definitely bring a scarf and hat to keep you warm and comfortable.
You can wear a dark or subdued colored top or sweater if you don't want to wear black. I would say you can wear any color that isn't too "loud." Avoid hot pink, bright yellow, bright red, ect, but don't be afraid of wearing white/cream, grey, dark red, purple, navy, or traditional black. I would definitely wear a black or dark colored cardigan over it to keep you warm.
Wear a black dress slack or skirt on the bottom. You can even wear a whole dress in a dark/subdued color or black if you prefer that to separates.
As for hair and makeup, don't do anything too loud and keep it simple and waterproof. You probably won't want to wear much eye makeup, if any. You don't want to spend much time touching up your makeup in the mirror when you can be spending time with your family, so I would definitely keep it minimal there. As for hair, since it will be cold, I would personally just keep my hair down to keep me warm (and fit under any hat I would wear).

Don't be afraid of adding a personal touch inspired by your Great Nanny Mary! If she had a favorite color, definitely add a tiny accessory in that color in her honor. If she had a favorite flower or animal, maybe wear a little broach or charm on your necklace with it! I work as a funeral director, and its always so amazing when people come up to us and share their favorite stories about their loved one, and many people wear something or bring a little something special to honor their loved one.

Basically- keep everything simple and minimal, stay warm/layer, you don't have to wear black but stick with darker or more toned down colors, and add personal touches to remind you of your Great Nanny Mary.

Again, I am so sorry for your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts<3