Pressure to feel beautiful?

Dec 4, 2013

Rose Y.

I know this is a makeup site. I love makeup, I consider it an art (one I'm not very good at, but I'm always learning) but why do we feel the need for makeup? Some say society pressures women to look beautiful, others say it's men.
Maybe when it was in the 1900s where women would not work and her place was literally in the kitchen.
But times have changed and are still changing. Sure, women don't get paid the same as men, but there are still more women out there with more degrees than men.
So I think the pressure to be beautiful comes from women.
I know this topic is random and I don't care if it gets deleted. But I just want to see how many people think they need to put on makeup to be beautiful?
I put it on because I love how it makes me feel. When I met and married my husband, I wore no makeup. It wasn't until really 2-3 years ago that I got into full face makeup. But I don't feel the need to be perfect.

Dec 4, 2013

Mio S.

I do put makeup on anytime I go outside because I do feel ugly without it however when I'm with my family or best friend or boyfriend I don't feel the need. I figure it's because I'm comfortable with them

Dec 4, 2013

Sabrina K.

I totally agree that the pressure to be beautiful comes from other women and not from men! Girls can be so mean to each other, and actually this app is the only place I know where girls compliment each other and where we don't put each other down!
Also this is the first place where I have ever been called beautiful!!
I don't feel pressure to wear make up, but I definitely feel pressure to be "perfect" - I have to look good, be smart, do good in school, be the perfect hostess, have the perfect home, be well-spoken and polite... and the list go on!!
I wear makeup cos I love the me-time that comes with applying it, and the confidence that comes with feeling good!

I think it's a good topic Rose :)

Dec 4, 2013

Huda S.

I agree! There is this felt pressure to be beautiful and its mainly comes from women like Sabrina mentioned. I'm okay with or without makeup, but makeup gives a little extra fuzzy feeling inside lol. I personally feel like I have to wear eyeliner. but thats because it makes me feel good.

Dec 4, 2013

Imi W.

It definitely puts pressure on us girls. I wear makeup regularly because I love it it's my passion but some days I'm like meh I don't feel like it and I'm comfortable with none if I'm just going around town. To school I wear some because I feel more confident with it but I don't wear loads because I don't feel the need for school but on occasion I like to wear more for a bit of fun not because it is necessary. So many women feel ugly without it and I think it's really sad and we should enjoy makeup rather than seeing it as a necessity :) also most men prefer girls who are more natural anyway so we shouldn't do it for guys :P I think whatever your comfortable with you should do it's your face so :)

Dec 4, 2013

Antonia S.

I wear foundation, concealer and fill in my brows (sometimes extending it to neutral eyes and fun colored lipsticks) so that I look presentable and decent to other women. When I start doing smoky eyes or red lips, I'm trying to attract male attention. So for me, wearing makeup is for both.
Makeup has given me a false sense of confidence. I like that I can carve out cheekbones and contour my nose and it will completely change the way I look.
I think my opinions started to change when I started dating my current boyfriend six months ago. He likes me natural, and I have grown a lot more confident in my own skin because of him.
More recently (I'd say within the last month or two), I've gotten a little tiresome of the long amounts of time I spend applying makeup (usually 30-40) minutes in the morning for school. I'll happily spend an hour getting ready to go out on weekends, but for me waking up at 5:15am to put on my face for school has grown less and less appealing. I haven't been wearing makeup to school for the last three weeks and I notice a huge different in how people treat me, especially the guys. I've been tricking them into thinking I'm a hot model, lol.

Dec 4, 2013

Mj H.

No the pressure to be beautiful does come from other women! No there is no pressure to be beautiful! It's up to you to look the way you feel like or comfortable in. people wear makeup for different reasons, some it's an art of creativity, some for fun. What ever their reason may be they do it because they want to do. Beauty come in diffetent ways and it's in the eye of the beholder.

Dec 4, 2013

Tilly M.

When I'm at work I barely wear makeup, there is 20 women and 180+ men. Sometimes I wear concealer and mascara at most. When I go shopping I tend to get really dressed up, nice clothes, hair done, make up, because I don't want other people (women) thinking I look bad. Especially some shops where you are expected to have a certain look about you to wear those clothes. I would never go in to Victorias Secret on a rough day because all the staff are so done up I don't want them looking down at me.

Dec 4, 2013

Mia F.

Make up is made for women to have somet fun , we have to make the men happy , cook ,clean , work and make chlidren. If the make up didnt exist we didnt have anything to enjoy. Thanks God , make up is amazing ,

Dec 4, 2013

Mia F.

some

Dec 4, 2013

Kelly H.

I don't wear any makeup at all if I don't feel like it, I buy and wear makeup because it is fun. I go to the office at least two days a week with a makeup free face.

Dec 4, 2013

Rose Y.

Mj, look at what tilly just said.
Victoria secret, a place where they sell lingerie and girls who are 18 will look down upon you for not wearing makeup?
Tilly, there should be no reason someone should look down at you for not wearing makeup.

Dec 4, 2013

Mia F.

Make up is just one of them , you going too far

Dec 4, 2013

Mia F.

With what I said ,

Dec 4, 2013

Kenzie L.

My love for makeup came before I started feeling the pressure from my peers (both boys and girls) to "look good" -tilly I know what you mean about feeling looked down on at certian stores/places. as confident as I feel like I am, I don't dare enter the mall without looking and feeling great. I've made the mistake of going and not looking A+ and having a MOTHER and her daughter snicker at me. an experience I could've lived without...

Dec 4, 2013

Lizzy W.

I enjoy applying makeup, but I don't want to depend on it to make me confident. I know what you girls mean, I used to avoid certain stores if I was dressed down or not wearing makeup because I felt inadequate and unworthy somehow. But then someone told me, "You don't owe beauty to anyone," and it totally just changed my perspective. I have days where I go out looking like crap and I couldn't care less, because I'm happy and confident. The people I pass in the mall will probably never see me again, so what does it matter if for a splitsecond they looked at me and thought, 'wow, she looks awful'? It doesn't change who I am, and it doesn't affect my worth in any way.

Dec 4, 2013

Stephanie S.

When I was in high school I never wore makeup not even mascara. and then when I was a junior I was told by someone close to me that I should really start wearing concealer underneath my eyes because I have really bad dark circles. After that point I started wearing makeup and researching about it and I felt so uncomfortable with myself. but now I'm at that point were sometimes I will go to my college classes without any makeup on which feels weird when you are used to wearing makeup but I really don't feel too uncomfortable. I look at makeup as more of an educational and fun experience. I like how makeup enhances my features and on my days off I like to sit in my room watch youtube tutorials and experiment with my makeup and hair its just fun! but I have read that people view women as more professional when they wear makeup. has anyone else read about this? Also I do feel judged by other girls when I do or do not wear makeup. (sorry if my discussion is all over the place I am multitasking lol)

Dec 4, 2013

Stephanie S.

@lizzy "you don't owe beauty to anyone" is going to stick with me. Thank you for sharing that!

Dec 4, 2013

Diana J.

Can,t be humbled*

Dec 4, 2013

Sara C.

I started to wear make up because I was constantly bullied throughout middle school, after awhile the really nasty and mean things they said to me started to get me down. So I wear make up everywhere I go now because I feel more confident with it and I feel if I go out into society its appropriate for me to wear it. The only time I don't wear make up is when I'm at home alone. I know ppeople will say looks arent everything but I don't want to be called anymore names.

Dec 5, 2013

Rose Y.

My ultimate point in this is: As women, we shouldn't look and judge negatively at other women. And as individuals, we shouldn't depend on makeup to give us confidence. You are you and you are beautiful because that's how you were made.
I'm not saying society doesn't judge us, it does. But maybe we don't have to judge others.
If you were brainwashed into thinking you are only beautiful when wearing makeup then that's a problem.
And if you feel bullied, just know that people bully because they're reflecting how they feel.
Good night ladies and stay you.