My daughter is having self esteem issues.

Mar 23, 2013

Shelley W.

She is gorgeous!! If she doesn't see it, I definitely do! I have a 13 year old myself and though she isn't feeling the same as your daughter I do see and hear the pressure that are girls are under. My daughter was born with a cleft lip/cleft palate and in elementary I had to step up my A game to keep her emotionally on point so the bullies wouldn't consume her. I basically exposed to her adult women who dealt with the same issues as my daughter so she could see that there is beauty to be found everywhere. I also made sure that I had her cousins uplifted her with positive affirmations. I police her internet, tv and magazine consumption because as we all know that those items can be a self-esteem killer. And I keep her involved in activities that aren't focused on "looks" ( she recently joined the track team and yearbook club). Most importantly I try my best to lead by example. If it means going a few days without make-up just to prove a point I will do so. The boys...my daughter already knows that they won't come close to having some maturity till they reach 18 so she said by 21 they will ripe to date.lol.

Mar 23, 2013

Pamela W.

She's so pretty! When she gets a bit older she'll see how pretty she is. You tell her that everyone goes through this phase of not feeling pretty, even boys goes through it with the squeaky voice and doofy stance. LOL. Tell her it'll get better as she get's older and they'll always be time for boys. Another thing you can do to cheer her up is take her on a mother daughter day with all the fixings. A mani, pedi maybe a wash and set and a new out fit or a pair of nice spring shoes. I don't have any children but if I had a daughter I would go those routes. Sorry if it's not realistic.

Mar 23, 2013

Lolli S.

That's rough!my son is 13 but I've alz encouraged thm n said hw handsome they are since he was a bby.girls are so much different.the huge impact of confidence cmes also fm a male figure.her dad.he nds to install these values n confidence of her intelligence n beauty.if she doesn't find it at hm,as she grows she find it n the wrng places,HOPEFULLY NOT.Everyone has to encourage her n tell her no man/boy is a reflection of who she is.Boys are nt important rt nw but education is.maybe sports,hobbies,church,school activities etc.can help build her confidence but her hormones are changing too.Jst point out everyone has flaws,no one is perfect n our world has good n evil nt everyone is going to like her cuz of jealousy or immaturity.Nt all kids n school are taught good morels n values.I taught my sons hw nt b bullied or keeping thgs a secret.I worry about my husband little girl cuz her mother is a real physco n doesn't allw her to c her dad cuz he married me.we have court issues but the girl wants to live with us.I worry that she'll find love n wrng places cuz her mother is a negative bitter n hateful n a drunk.Thgs will get better jst keep giving her a lot of attention.Give her a make over a girls day out.Shopping n hair/nails.Maybe dance class for her age.she's pretty also.

Mar 23, 2013

Carmela C.

She is beautiful!! she has such a lovely smile.. ;)

Mar 23, 2013

Angie L.

she is beautiful

Mar 24, 2013

Lavender M.

She is so pretty tht smile makes her beam like a butterfly

Mar 24, 2013

Jay M.

I like Pamela's idea about the spa day. Hair cut, and mani/pedis do wonders for the soul...lol. For one its fun! For two it might make HER feel pretty and boost her inner confidence. She is sooo pretty on the outside, sounds like shes beautiful inside too...so humble. That's an awesome quailty you don't find a lot of these days. And @Shelley sounds like your a great mom. Kudos to you.  :)

Mar 24, 2013

Chari R.

Shes so pretty

Mar 26, 2013

Andrea C.

I agree to take get out for a spa day! Just encourage her to talk to you when she feels down and just be a support system. I hated that stage in my life, girls were so mean and,teased me a lot. I wish I had an older sister to talk to and wish my mom and I had that kinda relationship then.