Do you even try to correct people or leave stuff alone?

Apr 25, 2014

Melissa P.

I use to, an did it in a nice manner when they asked for advice and usually got attacked by a bunch of people for it or just ignored me. so I pretty much stopped unless it's someone I know will take the advice graciously, not just wanting attention. but I don't just go around telling people what is wrong, here or in real life. except when they tell someone to do something harmful like lemon, baking soda or mane and tail shampoo.

Apr 25, 2014

Tonita C.

Consigning with Mio..

Apr 25, 2014

Tonita C.

*co-signing..

Apr 25, 2014

Haley G.

Yes yes yes a million times to people giving technical advice without the practical experience. drives me nuts on here, you shouldn't be able to go around giving advice like that if you really don't know for yourself. please only give advice if you know, not if you heard it from someone else. something about that just rubs me the wrong way.

Apr 25, 2014

Nichole V.

I correct people lol. It's for their own good I like being honest.

Apr 25, 2014

Marleen B.

It depends on the situation. If its relevant I will if its not I won't.

Apr 25, 2014

Noemie C.

I usually leave it alone especially when it comes to makeup. Not because I don't wanna get into troubles or because I'm afraid to hurt someone's ego! But because I feel like I don't have the experience to give very constructive advices! So I just read what the constructive advices you guys give and I learn a LOT. Actually I don't understand why people get offended when they receive advice. This is how you learn and how you improve your skills. I would be glad to recieve constructive advice on my next makeup look!

Apr 25, 2014

Dawn A.

I only give my opinion when I'm asked for it because when someone isn't asking for opinions and they get corrected, they usually don't take it well no matter how nice its put:P

Apr 25, 2014

Caitriona H.

I have to agree with all of you ladies that some people are a touch sensitive. There's been a few times where I was reading comments and everyone was like 'OMG *JENNY* THATS SO RUDE!' and I couldn't figure out how the comment was perceived as rude at all.
Also can I just point out that I've seen many times ^ that happen and a lot of girls will gang up on whoever when he/she tries to defend herself.

Apr 25, 2014

Emily W.

Unlike everyone else in this thread, I give my opinion openly. It is a public forum and to post a thread is to invite opinions, whether you like it or not. That's not to say I am rude or disrespectful; but I won't hesitate to dissent. Groupthink is bad; if nobody gives advice because they are afraid of offending people, nobody will learn or grow. Posting "your so pretty" on every thread where someone shares a photo does nothing constructive.

When it comes to technical stuff, I will give advice or corrections as I see fit. Just because I don't contour myself doesn't mean I don't know how. I choose not to do it on me because I don't need it. I have contoured on others with success and I understand the technique. Similarly, sometimes my makeup won't look as blended in a photo (I use my phone's camera, unfortunately); that doesn't mean it isn't blended in real life or that I don't know what I am talking about.

Whenever I give advice on this site, I research first (or preface with a disclaimer that it is only my personal experience). I try to post facts, backed up by empirical data and reliable sources, ESPECIALLY if I am disagreeing with someone's post. I never argue for the sake of being contrary.

Lately I have seen a couple of the same girls post a thread, wait 30 minutes to an hour, then repost again saying "no one answers :(" even though people did answer, and it has only been on the site for an hour. That shit gets on my nerves. Doing that constantly buries other, equally valid threads. It's a ridiculous demand for attention, from immature (and possibly underage) users. Is there anything that can be done about that? I am really having a hard time biting my tongue when I see this person do this over and over, every day.

Apr 25, 2014

Alma M.

By the way Thank you ladies for taking the time to answer Erin question on this thread. :)

Apr 25, 2014

Emily W.

Olivia, I disagree. By posting on Beautylish, you are asking for an opinion. That is the point of the site, to discuss and share. Otherwise it would just be a bunch of ego fanning and complement fishing (not that that isn't happening already...) with no genuine advice or discussion.

There is a difference between voicing an opinion, and attacking someone. Simply saying "Not my cup of tea" on a thread isn't rude, it isn't an attack, and shouldn't have any bearing on what someone else likes or does. It is someone participating in the open forum and expressing their opinion, which they have every right to do. I agree that "oh that sucks" is rude and doesn't belong here, but telling people not to speak ("just shut up") because they happen to disagree isn't right either.

The difference between speaking on Beautylish and walking up to a stranger is that Beautylish is understood as a forum to discuss beauty and cosmetics and offer advice or opinions. So yes, offering constructive criticism on this internet site is completely acceptable, where it wouldn't be in the meat world.

Apr 25, 2014

Gen S.

If someone gives me an unwanted opinion, and their work needs more improvement, 9/10 times I will definitely ignore it.

Apr 25, 2014

Emily W.

Jacqueline, thank you for the kind words. I wasn't accusing anyone in particular of participating in groupthink, but rather trying to say that when people just post the same empty complements on threads rather than expressing any opinion (especially if they are holding their tongue because they fear retribution or offense), nothing is accomplished. I understand your point about not saying anything because, why bother? I wasn't saying that is wrong at all. I only take issue when people say they are uncomfortable expressing themselves because others jump on them.

I've had my fair share of jumping on. I don't mind, it comes with the territory. I have never spoken in malice on this website, and I never will. People who are so thin-skinned to think that someone else disagreeing (particularly on something as minute and subjective as fashion or cosmetics) is a personal attack really need to reevaluate their participation on internet forums, for their own sake. The internet can be a very cruel place if you aren't prepared; and I fear that a lot of the more naive posters here (especially the younger members) would not fare well outside of the heavily insulated environment here, should they venture into other communities. But I digress; I merely mean to say that I am never intentionally rude, and people should try not to let others' opinions (no matter how they are expressed) get to them.