Modesty: what's your opinion?

Jun 20, 2013

Dana M.

Also implying they are exempt from judging others based on style choices *

Jun 20, 2013

Dana M.

Oh, I know it's doubtful, but I'm saying, she does think she is exempt from judging.

Jun 20, 2013

Savannah H.

Maybe we should all just walk around naked. If we were all undressed nobody would be slutty or modest, than it wouldn't be an issue. But, I guess it would be awfully hard to determine each others character, you know, w/o clothes to judge it by.

Jun 20, 2013

Ana G.

One thing I can't stand is if youre wearing short shorts PLLLEEEAAASSSEEE don't have your butt hanging out it looks trashy...as well as your boobs hanging out. I don't care if you have cleavge but don't have it so I can see nipple...well my rant is done haha.

Jun 20, 2013

Lydia A.

Savannah you just owned it!!

Jun 20, 2013

Lydia A.

Savannah you just owned it!! :)

Jun 20, 2013

Lydia A.

Oops commented twice sorry.

Jun 20, 2013

Hannah B.

My own opinion: I don't mind wearing revealing clothes. I love tube top, short short. But the thing that bugs me the most is: some girls just wear their jeans and you actually can see the whole thong out. Or wearing a bra that won't cover enough and the boobs just dangling like nothing. Other than that, I have no problem with showing strap or anything. Just saying.

Jun 20, 2013

angel s.

Well, if we are going to conclude that men are just animals, then why not put them in kennels. And Emily, your responses are extremely heteronormative. What about those who are not straight? I am a lesbian, and I am not jumping the bones of every woman who exposes herself freely.

Jun 20, 2013

Brittany A.

For me, personally, mid-thigh and shorter is too short (though I don't mind if others wear shorter, just make sure your who-ha isn't hanging out like some wear their clothe), it is uncomfortable to me. I find naval shirts to be uncomfortable also. As for bra straps, I think it can be done in a way that is fine, but it can also be done in a way that isn't so good.

Jun 20, 2013

Emily W.

My responses stand. The biologic response to an exposed person, regardless of orientation, is arousal. That doesn't mean you rationally acknowledge it or act upon it. All humans are subject to those evolutionary impulses. Like I said before, clothing exists to protect our defenseless bodies. Skimpy clothing offers very little protection. The only function it serves is display. My explanation is extremely reductionist, sure. But it has absolutely nothing to do with sexual orientation at all, nor does it mention self-control. I don't throw myself at every shirtless male either. But there is no denying that the physiologic response, occurring before rational or cognitive response, is arousal. That doesn't mean you want to throw down on the sidewalk. It means you are a result of millions of years of biology.

Jun 20, 2013

Jannie G.

Just stop already, bikinis are perfectly normal beachwear, much more common than bathing suits. There is a huge difference in wearing clothing appropriate for the situation you're in and flaunting your body only to get attention.

If you don't want to wear bikinis or other summery items then fine, but don't judge others for wearing perfectly normal clothes. And suddenly changing yourself because you found a significant other is so sad, I don't even know how to respond to that. It reminds me of living with very religious Muslims, which I did for a few years, and it was stripping me of my personality. Don't change yourself for anyone, the guy liked who you were when you met. Completely backwards mentality. I'm sorry to use harsh words, but it is the truth.

I'm pretty busty but I don't wear tops that show off my clevage (it's challenging to find those tops), because girls are so judgemental. I wish I had a b-cup so I could wear the same clothes as the rest of the female population.

Btw if you want to see trashy beachwear, google "c string", THAT is something else.

Jun 20, 2013

Dana M.

Savannah H. I don't think that's the best idea, because then people would be judged on their body type.

Jun 20, 2013

Dana M.

Jannie, your post was so hypocritical, the credibility you had just went down the drain. You tell people not to judge others for wearing "perfectly normal clothes" yet you judge Kenzie for changing the way she dresses for her husband. If you didn't know how to respond to it, you didn't have to.

Jun 20, 2013

Emily W.

Jannie G. Showing respect to your significant other by deflecting sexual attention is not "backwards" at all. It shows that you don't want to advertise yourself to other people, because you are committed to someone already. It has nothing to do with changing your personality or having someone else control you.

Like I said earlier, everybody can and WILL judge everybody else. That is part of being a living, breathing human with functioning cognitive faculties. Be glad we have that ability, or we would've gone extinct long, long ago.

Jun 20, 2013

Ivonne B.

I am a fairly modest person. I think there is a time and place for everything. ;)

Jun 20, 2013

Emily W.

Nadia M. Exactly. Perfectly said.

Jun 21, 2013

Nazmiyé A.

Ok firstly ladies, showing more skin doesn't equal confidence... I think that everyone should wear whatever they want and not be judged by it but the reality of the matter is that people do judge. People judge if you are too modest, people judge if you too show too much skin. If we cared about what everyone thinks about all aspect of our lives, then we wouldn't have time to do anything else.

Jun 21, 2013

Tessa T.

I wear bikinis but I believe that your bra straps shouldn't be showing and nothing should be hanging out

Jun 21, 2013

Salma K.

I agree with you since I'm even over the top being modest by covering my hair we do judge everyone that's what humans do I don't think people who walk around half naked are bad people but I do think they lack a bit of self confidence and self respect and that's simply just my opinion. There is no need for me to show off my body since I'm precious enough to cover it, Why should I let every man enjoy my body? I'm born and raised in the netherlands and actually the funny thing is not only european guys agree with my statement but also a lot of American guys agree with me. Anyhow I don't care what others wear I will fer sure not judge them as a person but I do have an opinion that might offend some of you sorry girls I still love you ^3^

Jun 21, 2013

Sar M.

Modest is HOTTEST!

Jun 21, 2013

Rose Y.

I disagree with people saying that if you're modest, you're a good person. I'm a good person, not because I say so but because I've been told. There's a time and place to be modest and to not be. I personally like showing my stomach, I work hard for it. I feel that exposing oneself, such as rear or cleavage to the point where you might as well walk around naked, is disrespectful.
I'm not judging, it's just my personal opinion.

Jun 21, 2013

Jannie G.

My point was that wearing a bikini is not "showing yourself off", because it is simply normal beachwear. There's no hidden message or anything sexual about it at all. And by that logic, deliberately choosing not to wear it is indeed an example of changing yourself for someone else.

Also, I'm not judging anyone for doing it, I'm merely stating a fact. I've even lived it. Each to their own I guess.

Maybe my logic is not valid in southern USA, but by west european standards there is absolutely nothing wrong or hypocritical about what I'm writing. It's truth. Bikinis are not sexual, people, they are simply the outfit that many girls wear when going to the beach.

Jun 21, 2013

Danica S.

I think that there is nothing wrong with showing skin for the right reasons, if you can keep your look balanced then I see no problems with an exposed midriff. I agree that some girls do take it too far with regards to showing skin, but for others it's simply self expression and/or a fashion statement. I think a big part of the whole issue is the over-sexualization of female body parts as well.

Jun 21, 2013

Dana M.

Oh yeah, I definitely don't think bikini's are sexual at all and I think they're perfectly fine going to the beach. And no, you judged her. You said, "And suddenly changing yourself because you found a significant other is so sad." I'm not saying your opinion is hypocritical. It's the fact that you judged Kenzie yet expressed your dislike when people judge others on their style.

But it's also important to note how sexualized bikini's have become to some women due to women in hollywood wearing it be sexy.