What's with all the negative comments?

Mar 27, 2013

Mariam L.

Online-bullying is so dangerous but people don't take it serious. Every word affects a person in a certain way. That is why we need to stand up for one another and teach the bullies that whatever they are doing is wrong.

Mar 27, 2013

Hugo K.

Right people shouldnt judge and if you chose to make something you were not happy with better than good for you. Women can be catty :)

Mar 27, 2013

Kat F.

I haven't seen anything like that, but I say ignore the trolls. they get off making people made on line because they have low self esteem and have to make others feel bad, so they feel better.

Mar 27, 2013

Stasia L.

Saying a photo is photoshopped is hardly 'bashing' the person in the photo. It's simply stating a fact.

Mar 27, 2013

Kat F.

You may not mean any harm when you say it, but it seems that it's hurting other's people feelings. Maybe it's more of a misunderstanding than a reason to argue.

Mar 27, 2013

Joanne H.

Every one is entitled to an opinion and just like you Kat and others on here feel the need to voice your opinions, then why should other people who don't agree keep there opinions to themselves... No body has said anything really derogatory or bitchy
these are just facts and we are all entitled to say them just like you do:-)

Mar 27, 2013

Kat F.

I'm not talking about facts I'm talking about people who say mean and hurtful things. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, I don't think anyone wants to take that away. Everyone wants to protect people with hurt feelings who won't stick up for themselves. My last post was it's probably a misunderstanding, but if no one wants to find common ground then that's a conversation I don't want to take part in.

Mar 27, 2013

Joanne H.

Fairpoint,each to there own eh!

Mar 27, 2013

Stasia L.

At least half of the ppl posting on this topic didn't even see the thread that we are referring to! Someone posted a photo of a girl and said something like, "isn't her complexion just perfect?" Obviously, she didn't know that photos of models are touched up to make them look perfect. Others commented things like,"That's photoshopped" and "That's fake". They were saying the photo was fake, not the person in the photo. They were trying to make the poster realize that no one's skin can look that good in real life. Unless something nasty was added after I read the thread, nothing said appeared to be negative, in fact, I thought it was a positive thing to reassure the poster that there's nothing wrong with her complexion just because it doesn't look like a retouched photo. I think Mariam perhaps misunderstood the comments and why they were made and the next thing you know, ppl that never even saw the original post are going on about bashing, abuse, cyber bullying, etc.! Let's just relax and enjoy this site & not twist ppls' words or make mountains out of mole hills. Last comment from me as I'm not here for the drama! Peace out! xo.

Mar 27, 2013

Amanda Nicole G.

I personally think that Mariam is also referring to this thread:

http://www.beautylish.com/t/jzarj/perfect-make-up-

So I really want to say this- I've read this complete forum and I want to thank Stasia & Joanne, both of your's opinions are beautifuly well said, so thank you for them ladies!

Mariam, if this post is in the slightest due to what I said than first off let me appologize because my point was NOT to offend anyone, it was to say (which I think I did multiple times) that It makes me so sad that's what we see as beauty when we wonder why these little girls are wearing makeup at 10, having eating disorders & doing drugs by 12, and sex by 14- and comming out of it broken girls who've grown up way too fast without any self worth. And let me just say too- It's not just the younger majority of women, but they are the most impressionable majority, and the ones who are affected by this the most. I personally think that it's society's fault for putting such pressure and emphasisum on being picture perfect and you HAVE to be altered to be beautiful is my point. As for the surgery part, I agree with you, and guess what I've had plastic surgery to reconstruct my nose as well, (- but please don't deffend the plastic surgery topic becuase there's a HUGE difference in you having plastic surgery to breath and her having plastic surgery & other procedures done 20+ times to chage her face structure) , but I'm not ashamed of nor against it-and I don't think there is anything wrong with plastic surgery (like I said before). I just don't think it's healthy for our society to put pressure on us to feel we NEED these things... and I want everyone to feel beautiful, and that their beauty is not conditional. Lastly, and if your comment about cyber bullying was reffered to me, I really think the appropriate way of handling it would've been to say something to me- because those were NOT my intentions & adressing it directly would've been the right thing to do- because I really honestly don't think that my comments were that negative I agreed with you the majority of the time I just was bringing another opinion to the table to NOT put those people on a petastle and compare yourself to someone that has "fixed/changed" herself to fit our societies ideal beauty.

Mar 27, 2013

Mariam L.

@Stasia, darling trust me I understand completely what you're talking about. My sister's a psychologist. She has taught me how to communicate in a way which will make people listen. I am very sensitive with people's feelings because I want to make sure that they're content and not ever hurt by what others say. My point is that girls and women who write "it's photoshopped" ok that one comment stirs up something inside these girls and women to get nasty with each other and start to bash each other like no tomorrow. This post that I've created is not directly about another post someone made. In general every time I go read a post, I see girls and women start talking crap about each other. We need to put these people in their place so no one's feelings are hurt.

Mar 27, 2013

Mariam L.

Amanda, sweetheart you do not have to apologize because I'm not referring this post to you. It's girls and women in general who turn a wonderful and positive post into a place where it's easy to get nasty with each other in 2.5 seconds. I'm pretty sure everyone who looks at a picture knows that a photo has been edited. People don't need to point out the obvious. When I post up a picture of a beautiful girl with gorgeous make-up. I'm always talking about her make-up. I don't want to sit there and tell little girls, "look..as we take a look at this beautiful girl..girl cheekbones are done, her lips are done and so on" that's not the point. I've seen so many posts turn so nasty. One time I posted a really positive post and some immature girl came on there and started talking out of her ass and attempted to insult me. I will never let that slide. I do not disrespect anyone on here. I like to give my advice and help anyone who wants to be helped. I've gained so much knowledge about psychology so it makes me think twice about what I write so I won't hurt or offend anyone. I understand what you're saying about young girls looking up to these photoshopped pictures and feeling horrible about themselves, but I also think that we can't stop what they look at because these edited pictures are everywhere in the world. It's up to their parents to try to help them build their self-esteem up. Because of my mother, I've been molded into a strong and beautiful human being. We all have flaws but it's just sad that I see so many girls and women take their shot at other people on here when they see a weakness in them. It's so much easier to stop girls and women from bullying each other then to start some horrible bullying on here. Girls and women need to know how to control what comes out of their mouth and in writing.

Mar 27, 2013

F F.

That's just part of this, everyone won't agree with everything, to each her own lol I don't agree with negative comments too, I love this App and reading up on beauty trends, tips and stories esp. on real women like us:) hope all of you have a beautiful day😊

Mar 27, 2013

Amanda Nicole G.

I'm glad to hear that your comments are not pointed in my direction, but couldn't help but think that from reading your first post, "Every time someone posts a picture of a beautiful girl with gorgeous make-up on, a group of girls sit around and say "it's photoshopped" "she had her nose, and lips done" Ok, first of all, if you do not like the post, don't comment on it."
I'm sorry, however it uncannily resembled your prior topic; perfect makeup post.
You're right we can't control the pictures that are everywhere, and we can't control what they look at- but we CAN control how we percieve these pictures and not make that the standard and ideal beauty. Most parents these days, aren't parents or are even around- babies are having babies; and parenting isn't taken seriously anymore. The standards we hold our children to now have fallen so much in the past 10 years, it's disgusting. So, let's just say those girls who don't have parent's or a mother (because I didn't), don't have that opportunity or person in their lives to teach them, and society is constantly putting each of us down & teaching us to be critical, judgemental, conditional people. After all, we are all a product of our enviornment. People may not need to point out the obvious, however that is their opinion and everyone is entitled to it; whether we agree with it or not, whether it's right or not. That is after all, the reasoning and purpose for these forums- to express our opinions, advice, thoughts, feelings, reviews, likes/dislikes etc. We ask for others' opinions, we invite them in for discussion- that's the great thing about this forum is hearing what every single person thinks& feels about so many beauty related things. I am not any means defending anyone who is ever rude or a bully, because that is never okay. Maybe it is just me, because I haven't really seen what you're saying goes on; on here, I haven't seen girls put other girls down on purpose; or be cruel to others on this website at all. I really feel like the meaning behind this post is because you don't nessesarily like/agree with what other people have said and so you're trying to put them down, silence them, make them feel guilty, & punish them for having their own opinions... I could be wrong because I don't know excactly which coversation you are talking about, however that's honestly how it looks to me; sorry.

Mar 27, 2013

Tiffany D.

Well said Amanda lol I don't even feel the need to comment now you said it all!

Mar 27, 2013

Andrea C.

I love this app too and enjoy all the advice and beauty tips. I have seen some negative comments and people have tried to tell me about myself when I have commented on some things. Yes people are entitled to their own opinions and have preferences but there is a line of constructive criticism and being rude. I hope everyone can learn to be a but more pleasant on here.

Mar 27, 2013

Joanne H.

Gosh I feel like mums telling us off now

Mar 27, 2013

Mariam L.

Amanda, do not assume that I'm putting anyone down for any reason. It is not in my in born character to crush souls. If I don't agree with what someone said than I will just say how I feel and let them stand solid on their ground. Just because you have not seen people bash out on others it does not mean that it didn't happen. I stand by young girls who are afraid to stand up for herself. I did not have an Easy life either but that does not mean that I will put down people or hurt their feelings. Sweetheart I am a grown girl it would be completely idiotic of me to put someone down because I do not like or agree with what someone is saying. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion but just because it is over the internet people think they can say whatever they want even if it is disrespectful or insulting. I am humble and love meeting people. But I will not let some bratty girl or woman insult an innocent person.

Mar 27, 2013

Mariam L.

Lolli I love that quote!!:) and Andrea you are right on point:) its about respects and manners and a lot of people don't have that.

Mar 27, 2013

Mariam L.

Thank you to all the beautiful and intelligent women giving your feedback on this issue in which we are facing. I'm in awe to know that we can stand together And protect each other from cyber-bullies. This is near and dear to my heart as I was bullied online a couple years ago and almost killed myself. Amanda you are a very brilliant girl and I'm glad that you commented on this post. I adore you guys. Much love.

Mar 28, 2013

F F.

Just like Ivonne B. said- peace love & make-up!💗💗💄

Mar 29, 2013

Mariam L.

❤❤❤ agree with you love.