Beauty And Opinions

Jul 11, 2015

NiK I.

Okay I'm going to start of by saying I understand if you half to take this down but I ran into an issue that a lot of us who are into hair skin makeup and style run into I was told by someone today well I was shopping that I most have low selfesteem because I ware a "mask" of hair makeup and fashion that just isn't true those are just a few things I enjoy and I'm getting sick of apologizing for my own personal interest's I have been called so many things for the reasons I listed that it would be inappropriate for me to say them here just wondering if I'm the only one who has to deal with this kind of things.

Jul 11, 2015

Jaime G.

Amen

Jul 11, 2015

Jaime G.

If someone wants to wear makeup and get there hair done so they feel good about themselves then they should be able to without being judged

Jul 11, 2015

Kelly H.

NiKi, if those things make you happy then that isn't a mask, that's an artistic expression of your joy. I sometimes hear those things but they typically come from my mother and sister. I didn't get into makeup, clothes, etc.till I was nearly thirty, I was always and sometimes still am very much the tomboy in my construction boots, jeans, and flannels which they always complained about (I wasn't feminine enough) now when I spend a morning getting all dolled up and for one reason or another have to see one or both of them there is always some harsh criticism, it seems some people are never happy. I just chalk it up to the fact that they will never except me unless I fit it into their mold and since I'm never going to have/like the same things they do they can just kiss my fabulous booty. ;).

Cheer up and continue to do what makes you feel good.
xo

Jul 11, 2015

Kelly F.

Kelly, great reply. I too fall under the criticism of family because I "obsess" over make up and hair...but I find it hilariously funny when they need hair or make up done for a special occasion, I'm the first person they ask. so I do it and laugh the whole time knowing my "obsession" comes in handy when they want it to.

Jul 11, 2015

Tessandra R.

@Kelly my family does that too! Whenever they need makeup or hair done they come to me lol. And I completely understand @Niki, I am always criticized by family/friends that I wear too much makeup and I'm ridiculous for taking time to do my hair and such. It used to upset me, but after teaching them how to do certain things (like winged eyeliner) they're ecstatic! And working as a waitress at a small family restaurant, I get a lot of compliments! Just the other day I seated an older couple for my coworker, and after they ate he stayed by the podium. I walked up to him thinking he needed change or something like that, but he said to me, "I just wanted to say you are the cutest damn hostess we've ever had. We'll definitely be back!" It made my day lol. I guess it just depends on who it is. It's like tattoos or unnatural hair colors. Some people love them, others not so much. No matter what, known that it's your body and you're beautiful whether or not you wear makeup/do your hair/are fashionable. Rock it girl! Someone out there admires you because of it! :) Xx

Jul 11, 2015

Jen C.

Niki, enjoying makeup and fashion doesn't mean you have low self-esteem, it means you have found something you enjoy. When you start to cater to other's will and try to be what they want you to be, that's when most people loose their self-esteem. There is nothing wrong with trying to make friends and family happy, but if you have to alter yourself in the process of making them happy you will only lose yourself. You shouldn't have to apologize for being yourself as long as your not intentionally harming others. Some people love to wear a full face, some love to go bare faced. Just try to be the best positive version of yourself. If someone has an issue with how you look just say, " that's nice, but I'm happy with things, and I plan on staying happy with myself, I'm sorry you can't accept my happiness." You can't change another's opinion, you can only control how you react to their behaviour. Don't give in to their negativity!! As the other ladies have said just love yourself for who you are!!

Jul 11, 2015

Kattya M.

Girl you have to stop them right there because that way of thinking is completely wrong. As some ladies said, make up is also a way of artistic expression, an outlet to your creativity. We don't put on makeup thinking omg I don't pull a rainbow cut crease some day because we don't like our eyes, it's just creativity. It just pisses me off when people try to put you down, I know this is a dumb reason but in this case, I do think it's just out of envy when it's women. When it's men, they are just god so dumb lol, they think Beyonce doesn't wear much makeup lol.

Jul 11, 2015

Molly W.

My mom says those kind of things all the time. Enjoying make up and fashion don't mean you have a low self esteem at all! You just enjoy those two things. I love makeup and trying new looks, products, etc. it's fun for me. A lot of people don't understand that, especially those who aren't into makeup. If people say those type of things to you, ignore them! You're happy and that's all that matters

Jul 11, 2015

Kelly F.

Ha-ha @kelly H..love it!!/

Jul 11, 2015

Stephanie G.

My mom thinks it's cool that I'm into makeup. She says it seems like a fun hobby. She never wore makeup when I was growing up (she's allergic to most). She just sees it as a hobby.

Jul 11, 2015

Emily B.

I think if you aren't able to go without makeup at all you may want to look at it. I don't think there's anything wrong, but you should be able to see you are beautiful with our without makeup.
That said, I think makeup is fun. I love it. I think it's a hobby or passion, art on skin.

Jul 12, 2015

Kirin S.

Great post Niki.
I have never worn makeup as I don't really believe in it, but if someone likes it and regards it as a hobby or a passion, they should definitely be entitled to wear it without being judged, especially as having 'low self-esteem'. This person you refer to is just a hypocrite- this person, who felt the need to comment on your self esteem in this way, obviously has low self esteem themself. People are jealous. Just don't listen to them :)

Jul 12, 2015

Hannah K.

This thread is fab NiKi :)

I get this sometimes too and I wear very little makeup. I wear makeup not because I feel I need to or due to low self-esteem, but because I feel it enhances my features and is incredibly fun to put on! I adore the application of makeup and love watching makeup videos, not for the end product but for the application! Makeup is such an artistic and invigorating process. Wear what you want both fashion and makeup-wise, there is nothing wrong with what you do or don't wear and you shouldn't let other people get you down because at the end of the day, it makes you happy!

Thought I'd add this little story -

Since last June-ish, I've had rude words yelled out the window of cars to me on the street. Words such as skank, bitch, whore, etc. I don't even know the people that do it. I don't even wear clothes that typically fit under those categories and I am not of those descriptions either. At first, I used to get really upset and often be sitting in a state of tears either at the side of the pavement or on the phone to my boyfriend or my mum. Now, I wouldn't say I've got used to it (I even called the police on one of the cars the other day!), but I've learnt to ignore it as they only want to provoke a reaction.
If you want to read an article on this sort of thing, I highly recommend this one. It's fantastic and one of my favourite articles EVER http://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2013/nov/13/women-street-harassment-gender-equality

Jul 12, 2015

Ruby T.

This thread is so fab! I just fought with my boyfriend about me putting on make up. He says putting on make up is a waste of time and that it looks ugly. And said that I have low self esteem.That hurts. Really hurts. I am a make up junkie and I do love putting on make up and dolling up not for anybody else but myself. And what bothers me is that, even his mother told him about how she thinks that I am wasting my time dolling up and could have used the time to help her. I don't know what's wrong with them. All I know is that they don't understand. Listening to them say it just breaks my heart because they are the people I care about. All I can do is just ignore and try to keep my head high.